a new year

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Happy New Year, friendly folks.

This year I’ve been letting the concept of “New Year’s Resolutions” stir quietly, without mental inputs or particular expectations, and it’s been refreshing to see what has been coming to me. I appreciate opportunities to check in and consider how to do things better – improve on myself, on my life, on my relationships – and Steven and I tend to do this together a few times a year, usually on birthdays and sometimes at the new year. Checking in with ones self, with honesty and humility, is important for maintaining a healthy, balanced life.

This year feels clean and quiet, with a few areas that create a subtle rise of my heart rate. Those are the areas that require the real honesty and humility 🙂

A few of the things that have been naturally coming together –

Morning meditation. We go in and out of the habit of making time to be still and tune in, and it’s been quite a while since I have felt so naturally, wholly and peacefully interested in making time for this again. I wake up looking forward to it each day, and have had some excellent realizations, inner adjustments, and heart opening changes taking place.

Cooking dinner with intent and creativity. I love to cook, and dinner is our main meal where we always sit down and eat together, but usually it’s prepared as simply as possible, with as little hands-on time as possible because we are both wrapped up in work or projects. I have been making a point to set my projects aside each evening, gather a few seeds of inspiration and decide on a meal I think we would love. I find I’m going out in the garden more for ingredients, clipping more fresh herbs, and the house ends up filled with the incredible smells of a slow cooked meal. It is so much more satisfying, and our simple diet is becoming slightly more diverse.

Reading; good old fashioned reading, from books written with purpose. My first read this year was “Kinship With All Life,” by J. Allen Boone. This was actually a gift to Steven from my mom (thanks, mom!). I picked it up not knowing what to expect and was a little unsure at first. But then I couldn’t put it down, and I only wish it had been longer! I want to read it again. It honestly has changed the way I go about my day, particularly when out in the world amongst others. One of the things that has stuck with me most is the importance of living, moving and perceiving with pure intent and pure motives, and to see the best in the life forms around me. I feel I already live with pure motives and intent, and I love all life, but really, it can sometimes be hard to see the best in people… and in dogs, which I have become afraid of after being bit a few times in recent years. With people, I have sometimes become cynical, wary and unsure. Maybe dogs are suffering the same plight as their people. It’s important to be alert and discerning in this crazy world, but wariness and cynicism is not what I want the foundation of my perception of others to be built on. A couple days ago, I actually had the best experience I can recall in a long time with a pretty big dog, and I couldn’t help but feel like that wise animal was having fun with me for my own benefit.

Expressing kindness (to strangers): This is something I started trying to do more of a few months ago. It is easy (for me) to go about my way, and not engage the strangers I pass. I easily tend to keep to myself. However, I have been practicing looking out more, seeing all there is to see around me with a clear, open view (rather than the tunnel vision that often happens when you are on a mission, just getting things done), and the result has been that I am pretty much in a whole new world. A simple act, but try it with intent and I bet it will be interesting, at least. In doing this, I tend to look at people’s faces more and longer than I would otherwise, and then I might share a smile, and often a smile comes back. In those moments, it feels almost old fashioned, to see eye to eye and share a smile, and it stirs a feeling that all could be right in the world. I have had some interesting, unusual conversations come about from this as well. Does this sound crazy? Can you relate? I feel things have changed so much in the world, and some of what were once the most basic behaviors that we all took for granted, are now hard and feel ‘unnatural’ for people.

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I’d love to hear any thoughts you guys have, things you are working on for yourself, ways you can relate or not, anything you want to share. Would also love to simply know you’re out there. Stats tell me a number of someones are there! Blogging seems to be losing it’s place in the realm of social networking, or at least the place it once had, with all the faster paced, more visual outlets there are. Maybe we are getting quieter as readers. Or maybe the remaining readers are the quiet ones. I am also pondering how to blog this year. All business? All personal? Keep on as usual? … Is there even a need to segment one’s life between business and personal? So many questions : )

Love to all,

Abby

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16 Responses

  1. knitty34

    I always enjoy your blog Abby, and I think you have a great balance of personal and work content. I love seeing more of the work, but that is likely because I am in the “industry”. Yours is one of the few blogs that I still read all the content every time you post!

    • abby

      Thanks Dani, and that means a lot to hear from you. I used to post more work related content, but have felt a little more guarded this past year. I will try to share more.

  2. zumbida

    Hi Abby, I’m still here! Your blog posts are like little random treats when they appear. I like your mix of personal and work and food. I think that blogging/blog reading is on the wane, and I appreciate those who are still blogging. I don’t often leave comments because I use a blog-reader, which means clicking Over to the actual website to leave a comment, not always convenient. For myself, my main social media these days is Instagram; short & sweet, easy to navigate and network. It’s been great seeing your business bloom and your. New house become a cozy nest; thanks for artfully sharing☺️.

  3. Beth Anne Campbell

    I love your resolutions! And I love that book too. Thanks for sharing. Happy New Year Abby!

  4. Just Another Nature Enthusiast

    Hello Abby-
    In my opinion, blogging can be a complement to meditation. I’ve discovered that my blog encourages me to look at Nature in so many more facets than I would otherwise. Better than keeping a journal because the interaction and thoughts of others broadens my perspective.
    Blog when the spirit moves you <3
    ~ Jane

    • abby

      Thanks Jane <3 I know what you mean. Photography is often that way for me, and really encourages me to stop and look closer. And I too really like blogging for the interaction with other thinkers, and like minded folks.

  5. Denise McArthur

    selfishly, keep on as usual because I do enjoy what you share here : )

    I did decide to stop blogging for a few reasons, mainly…privacy and secondly as I shared on instagram, time. And, I am on a computer enough at work so I desire less computer time at home. And, yes…our phones have changed blogging. No doubt about that.

    I do like all your intentions. I remember you sharing with me about your recent experiences with dogs. Even though I am a huge dog lover, there are some that I am unsure of and even make the hair on Brooklyns back stand up. I”m glad you had the postive experience with the big dog and hope your exerpience with Brooklyn was positive too!

    Happy new year Abby – I love your picture too.

    • abby

      Thanks Denise. I always appreciated your blog, and love your way of thinking. And I can fully relate to wanting to spend less time on the computer. And without a doubt, my experience with Brooklyn was awesome. What a sweet and happy dog!

  6. Christine

    Abby, I love your posts & look forward to reading new ones. You really do inspire me. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts, photos, and bits of daily life!

  7. Fatemeh

    Hi, it’s the first time i comment but I have been a reader for years,I read you from tehran Iran.

  8. Jenny

    I just stumbled onto your blog from the “tend” link from second and edgemont. I appreciate your stories and perspective especially since you’re an artist. keep on blogging.

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